But they informed me today that they “don’t think they’ll go through with it.”
I know I shouldn’t push the issue and it’s their choice, but I know they won’t be truly happy or satisfied until they at least try hormones.
I know they’re scared, and they have every right to be - it’s a huge…
Perhaps have this talk with them? Maybe let them read this post? Ultimately it is their choice so pushing them towards a decision may not work for you. It sounds like they are sure of who they are but maybe having concerns about the issues you mentioned earlier like the cost and potential concerns about having kids.
I don’t personally know you or your partner (I’m sure both of you are lovely and wonderful people) but if they chose not to go through the hormone treatment now they can still chose to be addressed with whatever name or pronouns they chose as well as how they outwardly they want to appear. You can always talk about them choosing to do it in the future (unless this is an opportunity they cant get again?). My best thoughts would just be to stick with their choice - as it is only their choice. I know this isn’t the most helpful thing to say but when you love someone as much as you seem to love your partner the best thing to do is to stick by them. I won’t even try to understand the fear your partner is experiencing but with my own fears I understand that it is a hugely motivating factor is whatever choices they make. Please respect that their fear is difficult and will take time and understanding to work out but have faith. Have faith that your partner will make the best decision for themselves and have faith in yourself to accept whatever challenges you may have to face together.
One last thought. Have they spoken with any family, friends, or counselors about their concerns? I hope that you both can find happiness. If this doesn’t help feel free to disregard everything I have said, I just wanted to give you my thoughts and I hope that you will find clarity! I love to read about your lives together and your many adventures and I can’t wait to read and maybe see a photo from your wedding? Hang in there :)
-Hazelwitch (Abbie irl) <3